"When marriages fail. It is not increasing conflict that is the cause. It is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness…The demise of marriages begins with a growing absence of responsive intimate interactions. The conflict comes later."
- Sue Johnson, in Hold Me Tight
My goal and one of my strengths as a therapist is to provide a comfortable, safe, trusting, and non-judgmental environment for couples to express their emotional experiences. Often seeking counseling is a last resort for couples. Couples develop patterns and cycles of interactions that lead them to getting "stuck" and preventing them from understanding and connecting with each other; which is often what they want most. When couples strengthen their bond and connection and feel supported and understood they are better able to work together, resolve conflicts, and cope with life stressors. So often, couples report that following counseling they have not only improved their communication and interactions but have made their relationship stronger and better than it ever was before. Also, when one of both partners is suffering with feelings of anxiety or depression often these feelings subside when the relationship becomes stronger and is no longer a source of strong negative emotions and concerns. As individuals when we have that connection and secure bond in our primary relationship we are better able to cope with our individual struggles. As a therapist, it is an honor to witness and celebrate the struggles and joys that couples experience and gain.
I utilize the Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) model. EFT is an evidence-based model and is shown to be effective in that 70 - 75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvement. If you and your partner continue to find yourself caught in conflicts and negative cycles that you can't get out of of then EFT may be the right fit for you. Please contact me for a consultation or to schedule an initial session.
"Lynne has truly helped save our marriage. Both my husband and I can be open and honest with her. I have and will recommend Lynne to our friends."
"We have been to several other therapists and it seemed we were just putting a band-aid on things. We never really worked on or helped what was going on between us until we began working with Lynne."